Be the Best Guest (like, ever)
Everything you (yes you) need to know about adulting at events.
Featured Experts: Cydney Johnson, @stilettoevents, Heather Dwight,@callunaevents, Kim Jundt, @kimjbeauty, Sarah Roshan, @trulifestudiosco, Alvin Cooper III, @denverhaberdasher, Adrienne Coffey, @adriennecoltd, Lindsey Dienstbach, @belloandblueevents
Photographed by: Jackie Cooper, Jackie Cooper Photo, @jackiecooperphoto
Interiors Styled by: Amanda Grosgebauer Bernardi, Hunt & Gather Event Rentals, @hunttandgather_rentals
Models: Nick Alberts, @nicka1986; Stuart Crowell; @stu_crowell; Meg Delagrange, @meg.delagrange; Delayna Denayè, @delaynadenaye; Joel Hansen, @jothha; Shawn Melgar, @shawnmelgar; Germany Tryels, @germanygabrielle; Trayvon Wright, @kingtray7
Shot on Location at: The St. Vrain, @thestvrain
WHAT SHOULD I WEAR TO A REHEARSAL DINNER?
Navigating the fashion world during wedding season can come with many different options for your attire. It can be overwhelming and embarrassing if you don't dress properly for the event. When considering your attire to a rehearsal dinner, you really need to consider where it is being held. These days, anything goes for rehearsal dinners; couples are hosting dinners as simple as backyard BBQs and as high end as country club plated dinners. You don't want to be overdressed or under dressed and feel out of place. If you notice the invite looks casual and states something like "Backyard BBQ," consider wearing a fun and funky summer dress or a pair of nice jeans and a button up. If the invite has a more formal feel and a country club address, consider wearing a cocktail dress or nice slacks and a jacket.
I'M A BRIDESMAID IN AN UPCOMING WEDDING. IS IT WORTH PAYING FOR A PROFESSIONAL TO DO MY HAIR AND MAKEUP THAT DAY?
Yes! You need your hair and makeup done for a wedding. The bride has spent a ton of money on the photographer and wants these pictures to last a lifetime. Not only does the bride want you to join in the morning fun getting ready together but the bride wants you to feel as beautiful as you can with her. It’s all about the experience. How many chances do you get to get all dolled up with your closest friends and take amazing pictures together? Ask yourself - do I want to look and feel my best? Leave it to the professional to make your dream hair and makeup reality.
ARE THERE ANY INAPPROPRIATE COLORS TO WEAR TO A WEDDING?
I think that white is really the only color that is really off limits for a wedding. I think that really means a dress that is all white. All the attention should be on the happy couple and this helps her stand out. I tell guests to avoid really obnoxious bright colors and dress for the type of event you are going to. If it is at the St. Regis that is very different than a Ranch wedding or a backyard affair.
WHAT DO I WEAR IF THE INVITATION DOESN'T SPECIFY A DRESS CODE?
If an invitation doesn’t indicate dress code I would recommend doing one of two things: 1) reach out to the event hosts and ask them if they expect a certain dress or formality and 2) the location and time of the event are typically good indications of the dress code. Obviously an evening wedding in a church followed by a formal reception would be more formal than a mid afternoon cocktail reception. When in doubt I recommend always dressing more formal than less. You might be the most stylish person at a ranch wedding but I’d rather that than showing up at an event in jeans where everyone else is in dresses.
DO I HAVE TO BRING A GIFT TO A WEDDING? WHAT ARE SOME GOOD RULES OF THUMB TO USE WHEN PURCHASING A GIFT?
Yes! While many wedding rules and traditions have changed and evolved, this is one that doesn't seem to be going anywhere. It is customary to gift the happy couple something as a token of your affection for their milestone celebration. That said, there are many options on what to choose, so you do you, feel free to choose something that feels right for you, your budget, and your relationship to the couple getting married.
Wedding registries are still a thing, and traditionally, the bride and groom will list their registry on their wedding website, or include details within their invitation. These include physical items, experiences for their honeymoon adventures, even options for helping with a downpayment on their home! When choosing from their registry, try to find an item that feels special in some way (ie: 'since we always enjoyed milkshakes together as kids, I got you guys a new blender!"), then ship it directly to their home so you don't have to lug it to the actual wedding- it's easier for everyone involved! If nothing speaks to you on the registry, and you've decided to go rogue, gift cards and cash are always safe options, however, I always love a personalized choice. Whether it's a set of towels with their new monogram, a beautiful frame for a wedding photo, an engraved cutting board for their new kitchen, or even a record player and their favorite album- all make great gifts, and the extra thought and element of surprise adds to the gift giving fun!
WHAT'S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A SUIT AND A TUX?
Tuxedos are technically suits used for more formal purposes and are typically worn in the evening, where as a suit can be worn any time of the day. While suit lapels are made of the same fabric as the jacket and are either a notch or peak lapel, traditional tuxedos can have the same type of lapel or be made with a shawl collar. The tuxedos lapel are also made with a satin or a grosgrain silk. There are additional options like satin on the pants, waistcoat, shirt and tie styles that can differentiate a suit from a tuxedo. Consider the time of day, the venue, and the style you are going for when deciding.
DO I REALLY HAVE TO WEAR A TIE?
As a wedding guest, the only time you aren’t expected to wear a tie or bowtie is for wedding attire stated “beach attire” or “casual,” but that doesn’t mean you’ll be out of place wearing one. Check your invitation for clues as to what the expected attire is- the style of invitation or a line stating the attire. A wedding is a celebration of so many things, so take the opportunity to dress up a bit more than usual and slap on your tie or bowtie. Just remember, it’s always better to be overdressed than underdressed, especially for a wedding!